If you want to know whether or not you are passing the leadership test, it is very simple — Look over your shoulder. Jesus said in John 10:27 “My sheep listen to my voice and I know them and they follow me.”I Cor. 11:1 Paul said, “Follow my example as I follow the example of Christ.” We all need human models. Sure we’re to follow Christ, but we need human models to follow.
John Maxwell’s parable of leadership, “He who thinketh he leadeth and hath no one following him is only taking a walk.” Or in my words, you failed the leadership test.
If you have to tell people that you are the leader, if you have to remind people that you’re the leader, you’re not. If you stand up and say, “We’re going to do it my way because I am the leader,” guess what – you’re not! You are no longer the leader. You don’t have to remind people.
Leadership is influence and if you’re not influencing anybody it doesn’t mater whether you think you’re the leader or not — you’re not. It’s all influence. The same thing is true in your home. When you say to your wife, “We’re going to do it this way, because I am the spiritual leader,” you aren’t! You’ve just lost it.The truth is if you’re really leading, you don’t have to remind people. How about if your kid comes to you and says, “Why should I do this?” and you say, “Because I say so.” That is a very weak position to motivate from. It just doesn’t work too good. The test of leadership is you have somebody following. You cannot force people to follow you no matter what you do.